Yeah, I’m done. To say it’s “not your job” to write a post about sex positivity in a very detailed manner but then go “contraception? Yeah, nope, not my job to discuss trying to stay alive and in good health” is just … ugh, this is the kind of logic that keeps people arguing against condoms in porn. People act like it’s an ugly detail to add.

You also clearly say “society thinks (consciously or unconsciously) about sluts in general” so why would I not comment on slut-shaming? You brought up “sluts,” not me.

As far as a “forgone conclusion as an adult”:

  • The CDC data reports that 42% of men and 40% of women aged 18–59 had genital HPV at that time.
  • About 1 in 8 people aged 14–49 in the U.S. has genital herpes.
  • In 2015, rates of the three most common reportable STIs (chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis ) broke a record. The approximately 1.5 million reported cases of chlamydia represent the highest number of annual cases of any condition ever reported to CDC.
  • Baby boomers are five times more likely to have Hepatitis C than other adults.
  • In 2013, an estimated 42% of Americans living with diagnosed HIV were aged 50 and older, 25% were aged 55 and older, and 6% were aged 65 and older.

Being an “adult” does not mean you automatically practice safe sex. It doesn’t mean you don’t either. I simply said I hope you do. If you consider your “job” to talk about bouncing from guy to guy but not your “job” to responsibly mention being safe about it, then I just … that’s just such a disappointment coming from an adult. It’s one sentence (or one word). I can guarantee I will not comment on any of your posts again. If I didn’t want your readers to remember to be PROUDLY SAFE, I would delete my comments altogether and call it a day. SMH

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