While I agree with this, I can count off a gang of men (and women) who definitely admitted their feelings — or were so obvious around the person’s new boyfriend or crush that there was no way to deny it. That’s usually around the time the person who is being admired to emphasize how someone is such a “great friend” or “like a brother” to hopefully avoid the awkward “I’m not into you” conversation. I’ve had to have it at least three times for longtime friends.

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