An easy suggestion would be for them to date interracially but that’s not an easy task. A study on OK Cupid indicates that non-Black men are less likely to initiate conversations with Black women. Also, Black women are far less likely to marry someone outside of their race compared to Black men.…
This study always strikes me strange. It was discussed on “Grownish” as well. The reason is because I was on OK Cupid for a couple of months and got contacted by some of everybody. I ended up with one of those emails saying I was in the “top attractive” or “top popular” or some superficial stuff like that. I matched up with a guy on Match who was also not black and dated him off and on for a couple of months.
But physically I fit the description of the kind of women who would be shunned: dark skin, definitely not matching the ideal BMI for my height, black features, etc. I do have the relaxer and all, but this study troubled me for a different reason. It was too often pushed out there and too many black women felt like they didn’t have a chance. It was like saying, “You’re ugly, don’t bother,” and I’m clearly saying, “Um, yeah, bother if you want to.” It was a fun run, and I probably won’t ever do it again. First dates are just kind of annoying to me. But it wasn’t nearly the bummer it sounds like it was for black women.
I didn’t go onto the site looking for non-black men to date. I’m more focused on who I can get along with, who has similar political views and reasonable views on women. If I get over that hump, then I take the idea of dating the guy seriously. My biggest problem wasn’t race; it was men who wanted to have more children. Now women who don’t want to ever have kids will have a hard time on dating sites altogether.