That doesn't change the line of questioning. I worked on an entire magazine, editing and writing 75% of the posts, less than a week after my grandfather died in front of me. If she's not using this as a scapegoat, I'm not going to even mildly humor you using it as a way to coddle a passive aggressive and casually biased query. And your living location has zip zero to do with the post; now you're just adding in fun facts. The job is the job. Period. If you like her though, that's cool. Nothing against it. I had no qualms with her either, up until this comment.