Thank you for responding. I still have mixed opinions about my actions to the person I wrote about. I wrote an earlier version of this post and deleted it altogether, removed some specific details and this was the version I was comfortable releasing. But your experience is exactly why I wrote it. From some comments (some are left here and others were blocked for being completely off topic) I've received, I think people took from the post that I'm wagging a finger at biracial people for not being solely identified as black. Quite frankly, I just wanted him (and pretty much all biracial people) to acknowledge ALL nationalities.

Still though, if the people who raised you don't have direct knowledge of what you will face, I can see where the ignorance comes from. There are moments when my mother and I have had disputes over colorism. As a fairly light-skinned woman who had blonde/brown/red hair, she wasn't going to experience the same life as her very brown, black-haired daughter. Same height. Same build. Different complexion. And unfortunately I've dealt with a level of racial profiling and blatant racism that is startling to her. So I can't even summarize some experiences by just race; it's appearance, too. She couldn't very well tell me about colorism in the way I experienced it. But she damn sure made sure I had all kinds of black dolls and grew up thinking chocolate girls were pretty. However, there were some things I had to learn on my own.

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