Sam, thank you for reading. While I am not on board with lumping all white folks into the category of this particular boss, because I work with some amazing people as a freelancer, I’ve learned a couple of things over the past year and a quarter. When you work with a broader group of clients, including outside of the United States, there’s a bit more open-mindedness. Topics I wanted to write about long ago are embraced when working with clients overseas (and actually in other U.S. states) in a way that just wasn’t happening in traditional Corporate America.

And my boss’s boss who could’ve resolved all of this was black, so it wasn’t just that boss. He was the “I’m just messing with you” manager I wrote about here, who made a joke about choking me. He did absolutely nothing to resolve this issue. While he did speak up about the bereavement call — and nagged me nonstop to go to lunch with him when he wasn’t hiding things on my desk — he was quiet as a church mouse on this one.

As stated earlier in the post, I have had some exceptional bosses of varying races (white, black, Latino/a). But this particular job soured me on Corporate America as a whole. I’m both too old and too secure as a black woman to tap dance for money. Being quiet didn’t work, so the exit door was my only other option. Leaving that job was one of the most fulfilling decisions I have ever made for my career. Working with the clientele I have now is even better, but it’s still a tough decision to make when you have bills to pay and student loans that don’t care about why I left. I understand why most (black) people stick it out.

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