I think I've been there so many times that I start asking people to add "Dr." in front of "Vaughn." If you're going to cry a river to me, give me the title dammit. Also, the only thing that happens more than the cry-me-a-river moments is the one where a black guy is hired and non-black co-workers immediately go, "You two should date." They literally know absolutely NOTHING about us but decide we should date because, I mean, ob-vi-ous-ly we'll make it to marriage and 50-year anniversaries. All we have to do is both be black. Voila!

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