I have said on many occasions that jealous people ONLY need to date other jealous people. They are the only group who understands each other’s crazy. I dated a jealous guy one time who wanted me to get rid of two male friends who I’d been cool with for 10+ years and another in a totally different state. It was absolutely exhausting, and we had only been dating a little over a month. We battled nonstop. There is a passage in Trevor Noah’s book from his mom that perfectly described that relationship. She said:

The traditional man wants a woman to be subservient, but he never falls in love with subservient women. He’s attracted to independent women.

“He’s like an exotic bird collector,” she said. “He only wants a woman who is free because his dream is to put her in a cage.”

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