I cannot remember who it was, but there was a guy I know who was like 6'5 or 6'6, locks and dark skinned. And I remember him telling me that he purposely shrinks himself down and lowers his head to try to look "less menacing." It's this kind of slave logic that pisses me off. Meanwhile short ass, white men in bagel shops are losing their collective minds, and going nuts on men and women alike. It's the ones you don't expect to act up who do, and the ones that people clutch their pearls about who are just minding their business.

Anyway, thank you for your feedback and for reading. I totally get the father-figure approach of "who is this guy?" and even the jokes about him looking like he'd "risk it all" to date/be near Sasha. But it was the constant accusations of him being criminal-like that were rubbing me all wrong.

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