…s a way to be close to someone I wanted much more from but couldn’t have (no interest in her side). Took a few years of self torture on my part to get to a level where I can appreciate the friendship without that past connotation. Attraction is indeed the barrier.
Genuine question, no salt: Why did you want to keep the friendship going or even start it? I just do not understand why people would bother. I would wince every single time I heard about a new significant other or this person dating someone. Been there briefly with one person years ago. I distanced myself. It was just uncomfortable for me. But if we are brother-sister level, I could not give a damn about that person’s sexual escapades or relationships.