Did the $50K come out of your pocket? Does it affect your financial stability directly? Nope. I’m neither a wedding planner nor am I married, and actually I have no desire to be. But I’ve seen as many couples who have had extravagant weddings as those who have had courthouse weddings, both of which are married decades later. If you don’t want (or can’t afford) a wedding that is costly, that’s perfectly understandable. But the cattiness of calling out sexual orientation is neither productive nor relevant to the ACTUAL POST. If someone had made the same comment about the amount of money spent to pull off the Gay Pride Parade or an LGBTQ+ event, you would more than likely be offended. And more importantly, there is no rule that says LGBTQ+ people can’t have extravagant weddings. And judging from these stats ( https://www.theknot.com/content/lgbtq-weddings-study-the-knot), LGBTQ+ people can/do have expensive weddings too.