And ask all about the car’s alarming system, safety mechanisms, any past repairs (on used versions), etc. Meanwhile, folks are still biting their tongues asking for condoms to be used and confirming STD/STI checks. I swear it boggles my mind when I hear people talk about how they don’t know the person they laid down with. Joe Budden had a lyric in some song long ago that said, “Treat the p**sy like it’s worth something/Don’t just go throwing it at me.” I thought that was so on point! (That’s not to say men don’t, but good lord, I really want more women to ask the right questions before being stuck dealing with deadbeats, losers, liars and everybody else who is Mr. Wrong.)

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