Your music playlist can help reveal his stance on feminism

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When the bass dropped for a hip-hop song, he and I two-stepped to the floor, ready to get it in. We’d danced the night away at my brother’s wedding, so I already knew he could be my dancing partner. But less than a couple minutes after the initial song went off, TLC’s “No Scrubs” blasted. Women and girls flocked to the floor to recite the song word-for-word. I watched the scowl cross his face as he said, “I’m outta here. I hate this song.”

I looked on curiously, as he left me by my lonesome on the dance floor. Gainfully employed, sitting in the driver’s seat of a couple of Impalas (I never figured out his obsession with that car make), sharing an apartment with his cousin and an attentive father, I was perplexed by the idea that he had an issue with the song. Literally nothing about “No Scrubs” lyrics fit his lifestyle. A few weeks later and an informative phone call from a relative let me know all I needed to know about his views on women and relationships. (Hint: His theme song should’ve been T.I.’s “I Can’t Be Your Man.” Lucky for me, I was moving out of the state shortly after so I was unphased.) …


Shamontiel L. Vaughn

This writer/editor (since 2005), dog owner (22 yrs) and dog caregiver (1 yr) publishes Doggone World, Homegrown, I Do See Color, Tickled and We Need to Talk.

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