Note: This may not apply for all black people, but it applies to enough

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I do not understand the appeal of green bean casserole, regardless of it being a Thanksgiving hit. (Photo credit: James Gathany, Mary Anne Fenley, USCDCP/Pixnio)

When I invited a Japanese friend of mine from college over for Thanksgiving, she immediately accepted the invitation. While I knew bare minimum about kinrōkanshahi (the Japanese version of Thanksgiving), she was also just as unfamiliar with an American Thanksgiving celebration — specifically an African-American Thanksgiving celebration. I could go into all the fun and memorable moments — including her runaway car on the way to Chicago — but one of the most entertaining moments for me was her reaction to collard greens. She loved those so much that she returned home to a 12 x 12 dorm to make pots of it until she got it right. …


How my opinion went from indifference to frustration to acceptance

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“When I dated white women, it was a matter of revenge,” he said to me. “For all the racist white men I’ve encountered over the years, who messed with me for no reason, it was a way to say, ‘Yeah, that’s right. And I fucked your daughter too.’”

I raised an eyebrow. On one hand, I understood how satisfying it could be to sit across from a man who clearly hated you based on something as trivial as skin color. …


What helped save my mind in a 2020 world

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I have been trying to figure out how to use this image for two months. This kid makes me smile. I have never had this much fun doing chores in my life. (Photo credit: StockSnap/Pixabay)

2020 is trash, and everyone knows it. It doesn’t even matter if you kept your New Year’s resolutions. If you dealt with any of this stuff — plus the stress of the presidential election — then congratulate yourself for surviving. But in between a bunch of “you could’ve kept that” moments were times where I was either laughing like a hyena or grinning hard enough to show all of my teeth. These are those moments that I’m thankful for this upcoming Thanksgiving.

Doggface208: I had no idea who he was, but I just happened to look at Twitter at the right moment. Two hours later, I was still watching and re-watching his videos. I vaguely recall Mero big-upping Fleetwood Mac’s “Dreams,” but I wasn’t particularly into the song until I saw this man cruising along on the back of a truck with CranRaspberry juice. And who else could have this level of confidence when dancing to Megan thee Stallion’s “Body”? …


Why this investigative journalist should win a Senate seat

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Jon Ossoff is interesting for many reasons. The small business owner may connect with other SBAs. His upbringing in Atlanta may get him a few cool points from other residents. For women’s rights advocates, it certainly doesn’t hurt that his wife is an OB/GYN physician (who also grew up in Atlanta). But what really makes my mouth form into a Cheshire grin is his career background as an investigative journalist, specifically because Trump hates pretty much all journalists (including some from his favorite [questionable] news station).

According to Ossoff’s website, he’s served as the CEO of Insight TWI, a 30-year-old media production company “that investigates corruption, organized crime, and war crimes for international news organizations.” And Insight produced documentary films and television programs such as “Africa Investigates” — a docu-series exclusively featuring African reporters. You mean to tell me what Trump views as a place with “shithole countries” has journalists? …


Why waiving condo assessments is shaky territory

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If you’ve ever been on a condo association board, then you already know that it is often a time-consuming job. You can end up dedicating more time to contractors, building maintenance and day-to-day owner concerns than you would dedicate time to a paying job. So it makes perfect sense to me for condo association board members to be paid for their services — or just pay a property management company and skip the blurred line between volunteering and a paid job. …


Strokes are two times higher for black people

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He stepped out of the driver’s seat of his limousine, ready to fill up his tank. Tired, annoyed and ready to go home, this brotha (approximately 6'3, about 220 pounds, with an NFL player’s build) pondered about where his life was headed. He’d lost his job a year before and was in panic mode. How does someone with a master’s degree and years of management and marketing experience suddenly have such a hard time finding a job? His wife and kids were supportive of him, but as a man, all he wanted was to be able to support them — not depend on them. …


If your social isolation cooking skills are this bad since March, just give up

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Whole Foods Market is trying to rescue first-time Thanksgiving cooks from a 2020-level holiday. The grocery store chain has released its first-ever “insurance” partnership with Progressive by offering a $35 gift card for your “turkey cooking fail,” according to a recent press release.

“We want to help customers rise to the occasion and take on that turkey with confidence for less-stressed Thanksgiving meal preparation,” said Theo Weening, WFM’s Vice President of Meat and Poultry, in the press release.

While Weening is talking to first-time cooks with kid gloves, I’m not. Since March (December 2019, if you want to get technical), we’ve been in social isolation. Americans have hoarded toilet tissue, paper towels, antibacterial ointment, liquor, soap for dishes and bodies, and even started investing in bidets when the toilet paper shortage arrived, but somehow you all were too busy at home to learn to cook? …


The exit-in-chief angering animal rights activists is so on brand

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Apparently news of 11.46 million people being infected with coronavirus (along with 249,670 dead and 49.7 cases per 100K) is too boring for outgoing President Donald Trump. Is it because he’s distracted by hunger? In addition to tweeting endlessly about unproven voter fraud in black neighborhoods, he’s got his sights set on making more chicken.

Either he was was incorrectly inspired by Politico’s headline, “Trump’s Chickens Come Home to Roost” or he just decided he needed a new enemy after Democrats, women (black women especially), innocent black men he takes out full-page ads on, imprisoning immigrants at the border and at least 100 other things. …


… is not what you think it is

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It was only two hours. My parents made it clear that I would only be home for two hours before my older brother would arrive shortly after. I was a new kid in a new school and a new house, and this was my first year as a latchkey kid. When we first moved into the house — right across the alley from our apartment so moving was amazing — I was ecstatic to have my own bedroom. No longer would I be sharing a space with my older brother. To hell with his G.I. Joes and Skeletor. My Barbies, Ferraris, three-story mansions and fold-out suitcase bedrooms needed room to breathe. …

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